9 ways to date God’s way

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A Single Young Christian Mom

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Ahhh dating.  Simultaneously the best and worst thing.  So fun, so nerve-wracking, at times so confusing, at times so disappointing, at times so filled with hope and promise… It’s so much trial and error, but there is so much to be learned in that time looking for Mr. Right.

What dating has taught me:

1. Give EVERY relationship to God from the beginning – even before you meet up on date #1.  Ask God if this is the right or wrong move.  Ask God what He wants you to learn.  Ask Him to make it perfectly clear whether to continue seeing the guy or not.  Then… you’ve gotta OBEY.  Trust God that if it’s not him, it’s somebody better.  Even somebody that you think seems “perfect” for you won’t come close to the one God’s made just for you.  Trust Him.  He knows every guy’s heart better than…

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Eggs and Beans

Yesterday I was at work, and I had made myself an incredibly yummy but not-so-good-looking breakfast of eggs and refried beans. (Hey, don’t knock it till you’ve tried it.  Unless you’re allergic to eggs or beans.  Then feel totally free to knock it without trying it.)  My coworker took one look at it and commented on how disgusting it looked.  I then said, “But it tastes good!”

I’ve been thinking about that exchange.

Isn’t that so relatable with life?  We as a society judge a book (or a person…) by its cover ALL. THE. TIME.  How often do we write off a person before we have discovered his or her true worth?  How quickly we forget that we were each created in the image of God, for an amazing purpose.

As a person who has been overweight for… well, pretty much ever, I can relate.  Don’t get me wrong- I am definitely not about to start throwing myself a pity party about how terrible people are to me and how nobody likes me because I’m fat.  First of all, neither of those notions are true.  I have so many amazing people in my life who don’t care what I look like- they see who I am.  But there are always going to be the few with a snide remark or a disgusted look and a preconceived notion about my activity level and eating habits.

Those people do not know me.  They do not know about my years-long struggle with an eating disorder, or the fact that I like to jog and ran two 5Ks this past year.  Furthermore, they do not know about my relationship with God, my musical abilities, or the fact that I graduated 6th in my class from high school and with a 3.5 GPA from college.  Who could know those things from one look?

Rome was not built in a day, and one blog post isn’t going to change the world.  But wouldn’t it be cool to see what would happen if we resist the urge to judge people on the first look or first impression and write them off before discovering the diamond underneath?

A Note To My Future Guy

(This post was originally posted on my Facebook page on 3/16/14.)

 

Dear future boyfriend/fiancé/husband,

To make things a little easier on you, I decided to give you a little cheat sheet about me. 

I am awkward and shy around guys, especially ones I like, so you might not be able to tell one way or the other with me.  On top of that, I’m terrible at reading signals, so I’ll never be able to tell if you like me either.  So you’ll probably have to take a faith-filled risk and just put yourself out there and tell me.  Flat out, no beating around the bush.  If you have figured me out enough to do this, chances are high that I probably feel the same way about you.

I like little things.  Good coffee, a good morning text, inside jokes.  Play with my hair and maybe even write me a song, if that’s your thing. If it’s not, that’s okay too.  I’m no good at it myself.

I love your passion.  Even if what you’re passionate about is not something I know much about, I promise I’ll do my best to learn about it and support you.  I love that look in your eye when you talk about what you love and enjoy.  If it makes you happy, that makes me happy.

Maybe some people would say that I should have addressed the “God card” before anything else.  But you’re a Christian and a strong one at that- one who is equipped to be the spiritual leader in our relationship, so we’re good there. 

I like to make you feel special. If that’s spending time with you, cool.  If it’s praying with you and encouraging you with spoken or written words, cool.  If it’s getting in the kitchen and making you a sandwich, cool.  I’m pretty good at making sandwiches.

I know things are probably going to be rough sometimes, but just know that I’m a really hard worker, and if I am with you it means I think you’re worth the fight and the commitment.  I don’t take this stuff lightly.  I’d rather be single than with the wrong person. 

I like you a whole lot.  🙂

Love, Mo